When a Mistake Is the Best Thing that Can Happen

A couple weeks ago, I wrote this post about a mistake I made and how that mistake snowballed into several others ’til my grade for the day was a big fat F. And ya know what? Y’all blew me away with your comments to that post. By sharing stories of your own grade F days, you linked arms with me, looked me in the eyes, and told me I’m not alone. You reminded me the purpose of living a Christ filled life is to walk in the power of His resurrection, not my own condemnation.

And in the spirit of this been-there-done-that kind of support, we’re using today’s out of the blue link-up to widen our circle. We’re sharing a big mistake – or even a humorous, crazy ‘oops’ – that turned into a surprise blessing.

And I’m not gonna lie, folks: With a topic such as this, I have a whole lotta material to choose from.

There is the memory of my first date with my now husband when I tripped and fell down a flight of stairs.

There is the time I not once but twice forgot my sons’ student of the month luncheons.

There is the time I walked out of the ladies room with my sweaterdress tucked up in my tights.

There is even the time I sat through not one but three parent-teacher conferences with a wardrobe malfunction in the form of a zipper down.

Oh what a fertile field of awkward, humbling mistakes.

And if that’s how the stories always ended, I’d be hard pressed not to throw myself under the bed covers forevermore. But God can bring glorious redemption to humorous and horrifying mistakes, and that’s reason enough to stand where the Son warms your face, to sing a new song.

Falling down the stairs on the first date? David still insists this date where I fell ‘gracefully’ is the day he fell hopelessly in love.  And I am surprised at how at my most awkward, he found me most graceful and charming.

Forgetting my sons’ student-of-the-month luncheons? They surprised me with how graciously they forgave. I used to think those kinds of oops could stick with a kid, but it’s not even a blip on their radar.

Walking out of the ladies room with my sweaterdress caught up in my tights? And forgetting a zipper check before parent/teacher conferences? I am surprised how pride-knocking can be more funny than painful.

And then there is one of the most terrifying but blessed mistakes our family has ever been through: Our daughter’s gymnastics fall that didn’t cause but highlighted a life threatening injury. An injury she had since age 2, if not since birth. Thankfully, surgery all but cured the problem, and in the ordeal our girl won some hard fought lessons in faith that take many a lifetime to learn.

I hope I never get over the surprise of learning how sometimes, a mistake is the best thing that can happen.

Because all the time, God’s grace is written all over our lives and He works even our mistakes for good.

If you are sharing your own surprise mistake-turned-blessing story today, here are some things to remember:

1. New to link-up’s or have questions? Read this first.

2. Since we all dig surprises, please surprise another writer by leaving a comment on her post *or* by giving her a facebook shout-out or tweet. Use the hashtag: #outoftheblue. 

3. Be sure to include the out of the blue banner {see below} in your post or link back to Chasing Blue Skies so your readers can join in the fun. That way, we can all easily find each other.

Next week’s prompt: Share your unexpected or out of the blue surprise apology ~ one you received or felt compelled to give. I look forward to reading how God used this apology to build your faith, increase your joy, or make a difference in your life!





For the Days You Think Your Grown-Up Report Card Reads Straight F’s

My boots clip-clop clip-clop on the linoleum floor as I canter into the school auditorium. Today is Faith’s “Student of the Month” luncheon, and I come bearing her requested lunch treat: Subway. When I round the corner and my eyes find her, I’m surprised she looks trembly. As I set her lunch down and swing my legs under the long table, I ask what’s wrong.

Her doe-eyes clouded, she replies,

“Oh, nothing. I just thought you forgot.”

She smiles feebly in her relief.

I look at the cafeteria clock and see it reads five minutes into her lunch. Goodness. I’m five minutes late and she’s worried I forgot completely. Then again, it’s no small wonder she thinks I forgot since I completely and totally forgot both her brothers’ student of the month lunches earlier this year. My saving grace is that both middle school boys assured me that most middle school parents don’t come because mom, it’s really more of a little kid show, anyway.

The next fifteen minutes hold chatting and smiles and hugs. By the end, Faith’s eyes laugh happy. But as I make the short drive home, my mind travels back to this morning when the bickering between two of the three young’uns clawed at my head like fingernails on a chalkboard, resulting in my very unSunday school voice telling both perpetrators exactly what I thought of their behavior.

Losing patience with kids. Late for lunch. I see my parenting grade for the day.

Parenting: F

So I walk through the garage door – the one which opens to the laundry room – and see laundry laying on top of floors that need mopping next to school papers that need organizing. And really, that’s just the tip of the housework iceberg. My mind tallies up another grade for the day.

Housekeeping: F.

And I remember two nights ago, how the hubs wanted to watch a movie but I shook my no and mentioned working on my ebook with a How ’bout tomorrow night? But then tomorrow night came and I forgot it was the one night of the week where David and I are two ships passing until 10 pm. And sure enough, the next grade shows up bright red.

Wife: F

And so I step over the mess and trudge upstairs to my blue and silver workspace and open the laptop to re-read some of my own blog words. I lean back in the white chair annoyed for choosing such a poor title and ending. That post didn’t get too much traffic, so I assume others agree. And while I’m at it, I’ll just assume my grade in this area, too.

Writer: F

So I slam down the laptop and decide to go make chocolate chip cookies, because if there’s one thing I can ace, it’s cookies. As the cookies swell in the oven, I stare out the window at the whirling snow that is gaining momentum.

Why do I let a mistake or two gain momentum ’til I believe I’ve gone and flunked the entire day?

“If I do not stop and pray immediately – restating His love for me and my righteousness in Him – Satan will take my wave of sorrow as a vulnerability to accusation, and he will proceed with a hurricane of condemnation.”   ~Beth Moore, Praying God’s Word.

Sometimes tsunamis come and crush hearts in seconds. But sometimes the enemy gains more ground by grabbing onto a mistake or two and using them to chip away at our hearts a little at a time. If I give him an inch, he’ll take a dozen miles while mowing down my heart like roadkill.

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because thorough Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.”   ~ Romans 8:1

I know there are practical things I can do to show up on time and better manage all 1,982 things I do each week. But the purpose of living a Christ-filled life is to walk in the power of resurrection. I can pray Scripture and let His Word keep Satan’s lies from carving rivers in my heart that turn into canyons of condemnation.

The snow covers everything outside, and I can’t get over how my corner of the earth here gleams white and clean.

I’m thankful He does the same for my heart.

Just a reminder, tomorrow is our next out of the blue link-up! Feel free to stop by and share how God used a surprise adventure to give you joy or grow your faith. 


For the Days You Need to Practice What You Preach {and a Friendship Prayer}

 From time to time I ramble on here or at (in)courage about some aspect of friendship. And no sooner do my fingers tap out the final words of the post that I find my feelings hurt over the very same friendship issue I’ve written about. {Am I the only one who is often tested on the very thing I’m trying to work out?} As I massage my hurt ego or stepped-on toes, my inner sassy voice asks me point blank,

“So, you gonna practice whatcha preach or what?”

I stick my tongue out at this voice because sometimes?

Sometimes, I want to wallow in the hurt.

Sometimes, I want to only love the easy people.

Sometimes I want to tweak Scripture just a bit to say “Love your {kind, darling, lovely} neighbor as yourself.”

But nothing of quality is gained in that kind of living, so I lay my head back, close my eyes, and whisper prayer-reminders. I pray I live a true-blue life, not only as a friend but as a daughter, wife, mother, and sister.

Dear Father in Heaven,

I’m still learning the best way to be a friend to anyone – lovely or unlovely – is to make less of me.

Help me live this out, Lord.

Help me:

~Have the security to lead her into the spotlight as I step into the shadows.

~Be a breeze blowing wind into her sails rather than a hurricane tearing down her soul.

~More readily cheer than criticize, compliment than complain.

~Encourage her strengths and not be scared by her weaknesses.

~Insist on a spirit of completion rather than competition to enter our relationship.

~Log in more practice time listening than talking, loving than judging.

~Move my agendas to the back burner and make Your agenda my own.

And Lord, when living this out gets tough, may I wallow in the Word rather than wounds because You bind up all the seen and unseen hurts.

With all in my circle of influence, may my knee-jerk reaction come from a place of Grace.

Thank you for loving me in the learning and growing.

In Jesus name,

{And all the sometimes un-kind, un-darling, un-lovely girls say}

Amen

I love you, sisters. May your day be full of appreciation for the lovely and grace for the unlovely.

**second photo of myself and the *always* lovely Amber Haines.

Want more encouragement on this topic of friendship? Check out these posts here:

What to Do When You’re Waiting on Friendships

For When You’re Tired from Trying to Make Friends

Friendship: When You’re Not the New Girl in Town

The Best Thing You Can Do Today

25 Ways to Be a {Lovely, Appreciated, Bomb Diggedy} Friend


When You’re Tempted to Hang a ‘Do Not Disturb’ Sign on Your Heart

 “When teenagers put a ‘do not disturb’ sign on their door, I want you to respect that. Go through their window.” ~Nick Vujicic

Two teenagers share my living space, and I’m mighty smitten with them. In parenting them, my man and I have yet to reach the stage so many warn us about {cue the well intentioned woman with her just you wait ’til their teenagers! expression}. But our boys are at the starting gate of Teenagerville, so I’m not about to get cocky towards invading hormones and hard times. Besides, while I try to parent intentionally, many days I don’t feel super confident I know what I’m doing. My jeans and pants testify to this as most their knees are rubbed out from me begging God to fill my gaps.

  

Things aren’t always easy breezy here at casa Strong as we walk the tightrope of giving independence while maintaining boundaries. Sometimes we fall off, but we always get back on because this one thing I know for sure: I’ll fight like heck to keep walls from going up between us. If the ‘do not disturb’ sign shows up on my kids’ door, I respect it. But that doesn’t mean I don’t find me a bedroom window to crawl through.

Just like kids, we adults sometimes hang a ‘do not disturb’ sign on our hearts. Whether we aren’t happy with the way things turned out or feel we’re the exception to God’s grace, we tell Him in no uncertain terms to just keep out. We sit in our own stuff and resist His assurances. When this happens, He will respect our wishes, but He’ll come looking for a window, too.

God is always ready to use anything in our lives to speak of His grace. We’ll keep building walls but He’ll keep reaching over them because His love is a love that never lets go.

When I’ve allowed part of my heart to remain closed off from God, He opens a window in the form of powerful Scripture, a wise, grounded husband, and devoted friends. Pretty soon I find the warm breezy air irresistible, and I wonder why I fought so hard to stay isolated in the first place.

Have you ever placed a ‘do not disturb’ sign on the door of your heart? Who or what has the Lord used as a window in your own life?

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